For some people, all the parties and socializing make the holidays the “the most wonderful time of the year,” as Andy Williams sang. From the big office bash to the house parties hosted by relatives or friends, these social butterflies move seamlessly from one group to another, charming everyone. Confident, poised and often humorous, they always seem to have the right things to say and, of course, there’s that big, bright, radiant smile.
However, those celebratory soirees can be very stressful and strike anxiety for those of us who are on the shy side or feel self-conscious. Also, it can be extra hard if we’re attending a shindig alone. So what are the best ways to amp up that confidence and leave the party feeling like we also lit up the room? Read on to be ready for your next event.
1. Discover your gifts.
Look for the real talents you have, the ones that make you a treasure. What do you do that lights you up inside? If you’re not sure ask your closest friends, their answers could be enlightening.
2. Inject happiness.
Unfortunately, when it comes to happiness, we often think we don’t deserve it, so we fail to see the great prospects that are right in front of us. Sunsets, playing fun games with your kids or sharing a piece of cake with your partner are just some of the easy ways to amplify the feel good factor.
3. Do it your way.
Just like Frank Sinatra, you don’t need to ask anyone for approval. Plus there isn’t a set formula that will tell you how to manage your time, run a successful business, lose weight, or quit your day job. While it’s helpful to use great resources and admire your role models, your path is yours to walk. Comparing yourself to other people is a waste of energy, energy you could be spending on being in competition with yourself.
4. See failure as an opportunity.
We can choose different ways to face adversity and challenges in life. We can either fold under the pressure or learn from our experiences.
5. Step away from what doesn’t fit anymore.
Your newfound glow may be too much for some people, or not enough. You may also find certain habits and places aren’t in line with your awakened lifestyle. Don’t be afraid to make some changes because you’re worth it.
